You want anyone else in the world who uses Teams to be able to find and contact you, using your email address.īy default, external access is turned on in Teams, which means that your organization can communicate with all external domains. You want the people in your organization to use Teams to contact people in specific businesses outside of your organization. For example, and are working on a project together along with some others in the and domains. You have users in external domains who need to collaborate. For more information about the differences between external access and guest access, see Compare external and guest access. If you want people from other organizations to have access to your teams and channels, use guest access instead. You can also use external access to communicate with people from other organizations who are still using Skype for Business (online and on-premises) and Skype (in preview). Assertive women are called “ abrasive” in performance reviews.External access is a way for Teams users from outside your organization to find, call, chat, and set up meetings with you in Teams. Women in senior positions may learn to interrupt, but are likely to be seen as both more rude and less intelligent. Women are interrupted more than men, by both men and women, but women rarely interrupt men. Adult men then talk much more in groups, which adds to their perceived influence. In school, boys are encouraged to take more air time. Plenty of evidence supports the idea that communication behaviours are often gendered in multiple ways. And isn’t it odd that nobody gets offended when “mother-henning” behaviour is described as gendered? A snarky word is also not the equivalent of systemic sexism, which primarily targets women while also limiting the lives of men.
Some women use this gendered term to express frustration with sexist communication norms, but that doesn’t invalidate the message. There was much angst about the m-word: is it sexism in reverse? Sorry, but no. In other words: men agree that men do this a lot, but men aren’t going to change, so women should adopt the “masculine” norm. Quite a few responses said: men do this to other men too – it’s annoying, but women should just respond as men do. Others wondered whether this is really a gendered behaviour a few argued (fairly, I think) that fathers are frequently mum-splained. Some responded with mansplaining, either explaining sexism to women or asking how women would learn if men didn’t share their knowledge. Responses from male-appearing Tweeters were more mixed. (Some added: asking first is polite behaviour for any gender.) Thousands of female-appearing Twitter users started sharing the post, asking to print it on business cards or staple it to the foreheads of men. I’ve seen stories on several blogs, and someone even translated it into Serbian. I was not quite prepared for the viral response-3,300 comments, 50,000 retweets, and 120,000 likes, as of Friday morning.
When yet another colleague brought up his mansplaining worries, I decided to post the diagram on Twitter, where my professional community often discusses communication issues.
We all like to think we treat people fairly, but men often assume women are less competent, and white people are likely to assume darker skin equals lower intelligence. We’re all taught gender bias in behavior and communication from an early age, with boys and girls being criticised and praised for different behaviors in school. How does bias affect your interpretation of the above? Both questions are complicated by sexism and other kinds of bias.You also run the risk of undermining yourself by looking like you have an inflated opinion of your own knowledge. You may, regardless of your intent, undermine them by implying you don’t trust their competence or intelligence. Are you making bad assumptions about competence? Explaining things to knowledgeable people isn’t just wasting everyone’s time.
Conversation is a good place to start building the habit of consent.
Explaining after they’ve declined your help is almost always disrespectful. Do they want the explanation? If someone asks you a question, explain away! Unsolicited explanations may be fine (within reason) if you’re someone’s teacher or manager.I realised the “-splaining” part comes down to three factors: I hadn’t developed a succinct explanation for what distinguishes mansplaining, so I spent a few minutes drafting a diagram, as I often do to examine or explain ideas in my work. When people (almost always men) explain the product design methods in my own book to me, I say I’m well-acquainted with them, mentally roll my eyes, and move on.